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Low sex drive: 3 main causes

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Low sex drive: 3 main causes
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Do you sometimes ask yourself why your partner doesn’t want to make love? A low sex drive, which can considerably affect a couple (perhaps because of illness or hormonal changes), can happen to any couple at different times in life. Here are three main reasons and the solutions. 

Too tired?

Your days are full of activity, between work, shopping, children, housework, etc., so when it finally comes to bed time, all you want to do is go to sleep. You have neither the strength nor the energy to start thinking about sex. To avoid being faced with this all-too-common problem, make love at different times of the day and don’t always wait until bed time. Brainstorm together to come up with times when you have both got enough energy, such as early mornings, or during the day time at weekends, at home or in more unusual places. As we explained in a previous article, the quantity and frequency of sex is not important, it is the pleasure it brings that counts.

Stressed?

The libido is very sensitive to stress. If you are tense and anxious, your attention will automatically focus on your problems, instead of concentrating on the physical act and on your and your partner’s pleasure. When you start making love, try to think positive thoughts about yourself, your body and your partner’s body, making the goal that both of you get maximal pleasure out of your exploits. If you are very stressed, you could always start with massages or try meditation techniques such as yoga, hypnosis or acupuncture. Choose the solution that suits you the best. If nothing else works, it could be linked to a deeper problem in your relationship that needs to be addressed. Discuss it with your partner.

Lack of confidence?

Every day, on the internet, on TV, in magazines, ads, etc., we are bombarded with videos and photos of sex bombs with perfect bodies….But ones that have been PHOTOSHOPPED! The images and videos in porn are often also very different to in reality, between makeup and clever filming. Faced with this onslaught of fake images, of super skinny or super muscly bodies, many men (yes, men!) but more so women develop a negative self image and lose confidence in their appearance. This can happen suddenly or gradually. It becomes difficult to maintain a normal sex drive, if you don’t feel good in your body. Banish ads and porn that are much too far removed from reality.

Do a little work on yourself to try and accept yourself in your body, and count on your partner to reassure you, for example, by telling you that he or she loves you as you are. Like most people who have succeeded in accepting themselves as they are, concentrate on the parts of your body that you prefer, and forget your complexes! Your partner chose you for a good reason, and probably lots of good reasons, right?! Time to start believing them!

Source: Santé Magazine