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Sex throughout the lifespan: the six sexual stages in a woman’s life

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Sex throughout the lifespan: the six sexual stages in a woman’s life
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Alain Héril, who has practiced as a psychoanalyst and sex therapist for over 20 years, has examined the profiles of around 100 of his patients aged 14 to 82 years of age. He claims that there are 6 psycho-sexual stages in a woman’s life, which correspond to her age. From romanticism to post-menopausal orgasms, find it all out here.

16 to 25: romanticism

It is the beginning of sexuality and sexual discovery, in which the woman learns and experiments with her body’s pleasure, and the pleasure another person can bring to it. Sensation and emotions are intense. But the memory of childhood is still alive, and the woman holds onto some childlike defense mechanisms. Young women at this stage seek security as much as they seek adventure in their sexual relationships. Both seductive and romantic, they are seeking sexual fulfillment as much as their Prince Charming, a lover who knows how to help them discover the intensity of sex.

25 to 38: creativity

During this period, emotions settle down, women start to get to know their bodies better and understand what gives them pleasure (and how to give pleasure to their partners). Sexuality becomes more creative and can be very intense, as the woman becomes more open with her partner and can let herself go to sexual pleasure.

After 35 years of age, the famous biological clock starts ticking, which leads to a new and joyful type of sexuality, often with baby making in mind. Women become more free and open about their desires, and are able to live them fully and intensely.

38 to 47: pleasure

Turning 40 can be a time for a woman to take stock of her personal and sexual life. The children start growing up and maybe leave the nest, which leaves her with more free time for herself and her own pastimes and desires. Femininity and desire start to take an important place in a woman’s life.

At this stage, women have usually grown into their bodies, and learned to take a balanced approach to them, with a strong sense of self-confidence. Many women have their first orgasms in this stage of life. In fact, they can finally accept and deal with their emotions, no matter how strong they are, and are no longer trying to hide them. This “letting go” can lead to intense orgasms.

47 to 50: questioning

These four years represent an important turning point in a woman’s life, as she is soon to be in her fifties. This naturally leads to asking herself questions, for which she expects answers. But once she has found answers to her main questions, and if she is satisfied with the years spent with her partner, she can look to the future with pleasure and serenity. If she is not satisfied, she may start to question the relationship with her partner, not necessarily with a view to separation, but with a view to finding ways of improving it.

This period is characterised by deep intellectual ‘seeking’, in which the woman looks to understand her femininity and incorporate it into her sex life, to try and reach the ultimate heights of pleasure that are possible.

50 to 55: more, more, more!

Women from 50 to 55 years of age generally become extremely hungry for sex, which is where the name “cougar” comes from, a category that should be well appreciated by men seeking sexual novelty and adventure.

At the menopause, a physical and psychological hurricane is let loose. The body changes, periods stop, hot flushes start and are often accompanied by fits of anxiety or severe irritability. But it doesn’t mean the end of your libido – quite the opposite in fact!

Once the hormones settle, the woman will start to seek sexual fulfillment with an extremely open mind, animated by strong sexual urges. At this stage, women know how to appreciate erotic pleasure, and how to confidently let go.

55 years onwards: post-menopausal orgasms

From 55 years onwards, desire stays the same, going so far as to lead to extremely intense post-menopausal orgasms. Sexuality is now focused uniquely on pleasure, and the woman is more open than ever. She knows what she wants, and how to get it!

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