In a woman’s life, the experience of having a miscarriage can be extremely painful. In order to move on from this tragic event, it is important not to trivialise it, and to understand the causes. In this article, we will provide you with a few recommendations for how to cope better with a miscarriage.
Get your confidence back after a miscarriage
In this day and age, new techniques such as various pregnancy tests, ultrasounds, etc. allow future parents to find out that they are expecting a baby at earlier and earlier stages, and they quickly become attached to the unborn baby. A miscarriage that happens after a few weeks or months of pregnancy can be difficult to come to terms with.
The most important thing after a miscarriage is to look after your mental health. If you have a miscarriage, make sure to bring a support person with you to the doctor.
First of all, it is important not to deny the existence of this little being. Some of your loved ones or even certain doctors may not see the importance of this, and simply encourage couples to try and conceive again quickly. However, mourning is an important phase to help the parents build themselves back up again, especially the mother, who had been holding another life in her body. Naming the event is very important, and can help you move on. Your suffering shouldn’t be ignored, or it could come out in other ways, perhaps via migraines or sleep problems. Your close circle and your medical team have an important role to play: listening and allowing you to talk about it, without judgement. Going to see a psychologist can be another solution, and often one session is enough.
Learn about why the miscarriage happened
After a miscarriage, don’t hesitate to ask your doctor for explanations, in order to understand what happened. This step will help you in your mourning, and help ensure that you take steps to prevent the same thing from happening again the next time, if external factors were to blame.
The most frequent cause of miscarriage is a chromosomal anomaly in the embryo (in 90% of isolated cases).
Drinking alcohol, smoking, working nights, carrying heavy loads and being overweight are also risk factors for miscarriage.
Don’t wait too long before trying again
A miscarriage has no effect on future pregnancies, and is generally an isolated incident, which shouldn’t affect your wish to conceive.
Trying again immediately for a baby may seem unthinkable for some people, but as soon as you and your partner feel ready, another pregnancy could be just around the corner.
Several studies, one of which was published in the British Medical Journal in 2012, have shown that birth levels are higher in women who get pregnant in the six months that follow a miscarriage, than in the women who try to conceive over six months afterwards.