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Are we really capable of staying faithful to one person for life?

Are we really capable of staying faithful to one person for life?
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Everyone has their own opinions on fidelity. When certain people promise to remain fully faithful to their partners both in terms of love and sex, others only promise fidelity in love, while others still don’t believe in it at all.There are also people whose opinions on fidelity have changed over time, depending on their experiences. But at the heart of our human nature, is it truly possible to stay faithful to the same partner all your life long? 

What is marital fidelity?

In a married couple, both people have sworn to be faithful to one another “until death do us part” -a vow that is sure to have been the source of panic for more than a few, and which has given rise to phrases such as “the ball and chain”. Obviously the traditional wedding vows are based in older traditions, which do not take into account legislative advances in terms of divorce. Technically, the phrase should be “until death or divorce do us part”. 

For the married couple, marital fidelity consists of seeing your partner as your only life partner and sexual partner for the duration of the marriage. This is a promise that is often difficult to keep, apparently more so for men. Infidelity is one of the main problems in coupled up life and is the main reason for couples separating. 

What is cheating?

So what exactly is cheating? Does it mean to have sex with someone else? To kiss them? Or even just to think about them?

There is no right answer to this question, it all depends on the person’s own opinions and personaility, and everyone has the right to their own opinion. 

Physical infidelity

For most people, infidelity starts with a physically intimate moment with someone other than your partner, such as a kiss or sexual relations.

Moral infidelity

For other people, secretly thinking about a person other than their partner and wanting to be with this other person is the same as cheating. Even if it is just talking to or writing to the person, the intention is considered infidelity.

Discussing it with your partner

Every established couple have their own limits in terms of fidelity. In general, in the first few years of a relationship, people agree to be faithful to one another, but when routine starts to set in, sometimes the concept of fidelity needs to be revisited.

The concept of fidelity is pivotal in a couple and can be the source of anxiety and psychological stress if both partners are not on the same wavelength about it.

Several questions arise:

  • Is it fair to prevent a human being from feeling desire for someone, even if that person is not their partner?
  • If the desire is not expressed or accepted, could it push someone towards infidelity?
  • Can we impose limits on our partners that they do not want to respect?
  • Can we impose limits on our partners that they are not able to respect?
  • Are we ready to commit exclusively to our partners for the rest of our lives?

In short, be honest with yourself and with your partner. If you cheat on them, they may have the right to know, and to decide whether to leave you or stay with you. You may find it’s time to review your expectations of fidelity in your relationship.

“Fidelity is when love is stronger than instinct” -Paul Carvel.

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