Have you met a nice guy online, and gone as far as to schedule the first date with him? It is normal to be a little apprehensive about the first time you will meet each other in person -you may be worried that you’ll meet someone very different to what you had imagined! So here are 3 recommendations to make sure the first date is safe and successful.
First of all, be aware that between the ages of 26 and 30, almost 1 in 3 people are signed up for online dating sites, and 45% of men have already paid for the services (compared to 18% of women). There tend to be more men than women on these sites.
Ladies: make sure to choose a safe location
Especially if you are a young single woman who is heading off to meet someone you met online, be sure you don’t simply agree to the first suggestion without thinking about it.
For example, if the guy suggests that you meet in a closed, private location (in his house, in a friend’s house, etc.) or even a deserted public place (in a forest, or in the mountains, etc.), or any place where there are no others around, SAY NO!!! If you have a “bad feeling” about it, move on to someone else. Always trust your intuition, it’s the best way of avoiding nasty surprises. You always have the right to change your mind, even if it’s at the last minute.
If you still want to meet up, suggest a busy public area, such as a museum, an expo, a restaurant or a bar. The cinema is not ideal, because you can’t really chat and get to know someone, so it’s best avoided!
Don’t set the bar too high
While you are chatting online, often over messaging services, you don’t get a real idea of what the person is like, because the relationship is purely digital at this stage. It is during the first date that each person can see the other person in reality, which is why it is better not to build the date up too much, or you run the risk of being disappointed.
Even if you may share a passion with someone, it may not be the same when it comes to their lifestyle and expectations, or vice versa. Sometimes, personalities clash, you can start to see flaws that you hadn’t anticipated in the other person, and it makes matters difficult. But if, by contrast, it turns out that you get on really well, or you fancy the person, then go for it!
Leave your shyness at home
If you want the first date to be a success, forget about being shy, and try to be yourself. Show that you are the same person that your date has been chatting with over the past few weeks. The more sensitive among you may have knots or butterflies in your stomach, which is due to the stress generated by the first date. Try to evoke your sense of humour to break the ice. Be curious and ask questions -the goal is to get to know the other person and find out more about them, in order to see if you really like them.